Proposing to your partner is a big deal. Here are a few questions you should ask yourself before you drop down on one knee.
So, you’ve made up your mind, you’re proposing and no one is going to stop you! I know, you’re raring to go, but before you start drafting your marriage proposal speech and shopping for an engagement ring, you should ask yourself a few questions. Not all of these will apply to your relationship - maybe neither of you are religious or you don’t keep in touch with your families - but you should be able to answer at least half of them with complete confidence. Pro tip: your answers may even help you pen your wedding vows later down the line, so write ‘em down!
Here are a few questions you should ask yourself before proposing.
- Why do I want to get engaged?
- Can I see myself spending my entire life with my partner?
- Is my partner actually my best friend?
- Does my partner bring out the best in me?
- Are we on the same page when it comes to kids?
- Do I like their family (and do they like mine)?
- Do we share the same values?
- Do we have similar financial goals?
- Do we want the same things out of life?
- Do we respect our differences?
- Do we come out of disagreements stronger?
- Are we good at conflict resolution?
- Are we compatible in the bedroom?
- Does my partner make me feel safe?
- Does my partner know how to get me through a tough time?
- Does my partner know how to make me laugh?
- Am I hiding lots of skeletons in my closet?
- Do I respect their religion (and do they respect mine)?
- Do we enjoy living in similar conditions (i.e.: is one of you a neat freak or a bit of a slob)?
- Am I willing take the bad with the good?
- Am I willing to make compromises for them?
- Are we good at making decisions together?